In hope that you find what you are searching for
So far I have the valk initiate outfit you get from one of the quests along the way in the story, I love that thing and it is the most modest outfit I've seen thus far aside from the armor I either want and can't afford or the outfits in the pearl store that I can't afford lol.
Because somebody bought me an outfit they feel like I owe them favors, which I don't mind doing as long as it doesn't hinder my character's personal story which I am going to be doing a brief intro for today. It just seems that it is all he wants to do (any time I say "I cant erp at this time but I can do regular rp" he either loses interest or tries to find something else to do, and to me questing together isnt roleplay unless there is an adventure to go along with it lol).
I totally understand the feeling, I'd tell you that it maybe is better to just separate yourself from the individual in question or be 100% Honest that "smut" isn't the only thing you are after. While it is nice for people to offer costume, and while myself I was somewhat "victimize" on "I bought you costume and you won't erp with me? You are a B****" It's their choice to begin with and especially if you never mentionned it! You can always, and also demand a refund from the gift if it was bought in the---I think 72 hours? Despite it being a gift too. They would send the pearls back to the sender. If not you can always try "explain" the situation, The GM's have been very kind and attentive on many instances of these kinds of behaviors or like-said situations!
But Fear not, Just don't feel that you are obligated to do what this person tells you, you are free to go about and find another or multiple individuals to fill up your scenery! Again this is only but a neutral stand point as I do not know the whole story, I understand that you still might want to keep him/her as a friend! But when, to be honest? The behavior you explain might be more "overshadowing power" than truly just understanding and respect of what you wish. If you want? I've seen many people with somewhat the same problem, I've helped them and you are welcome to message me in private! Afterall a good community is one that helps and make sure that they are happy in their environments and feel safe about it too!